I was having a particularly difficult morning one day not too long ago, and I called an older lady who attends my church. I was pretty much sobbing. I had been crying for three days straight because I had one of those setbacks I talked about in an earlier post. She prayed and then she said, “What are you doing today. I want to know where you’re going. You have leave your house. You can’t just sit there miserable all day.” Yesterday was the first time I’d seen her since that morning and she asked if I really did go out that day.
I know that really all you want to do is curl up in bed and cry all day long. Every day. Trust me, I know. I have that same feeling frequently. That would be the devil working in your life, and in mine. The devil wants to isolate you so that it is easier to bring about his plans in your life. Sitting in the house alone just keeps you focused on how you’re feeling. Which can bring on a sense of hopelessness. God made us to be in community with one another. We were never meant to walk through this life alone. So, get out of the house. Go to a coffee house, the mall, a movie, a friend’s house. Just go somewhere there are other people. You don’t necessarily have to talk to them. Just go. Just being out among other people will make you feel better. Help you to shake that feeling of loneliness. Give you a better outlook for the day.
I did go somewhere that day I called her.
I went to my favorite little coffee house! It’s a locally owned shop that just so happens to be owned by a friend of mine. So he doesn’t mind when I go camp out for a little while. I go and write, or read a book, do a Bible Study, meet some friends, or just people watch. It is absolutely one of my favorite spots in my little town! That day there was a sunflower sitting on each table, which happens to be one of my two favorite flowers. Don’t you love when God leaves you a little love note that only you will recognize?
This is one of my favorite paintings hanging in the shop! I have a thing for bicycle art right now! I don’t know why.
She asked me that day, so now I’m asking you, “Where are you going to go to get out of the house? I want to know!”
Godspeed,
Mollie <3
Only God can heal a broken heart, but there are things we can do to help foster self healing. This post is part of my series 31 Days of Self Healing. You can find the rest of the posts for this series here.
Mollie, I don’t know if you’re reading my series but God has been digging inside of me deep to share my past hurt/pain in my first marriage. Years ago but nevertheless God is dictating.
When my husband left me with my three kiddos, I was lost – I was a wanderer in my own home. However I had a ten month old baby I needed to tend to. And a 7 and 9 yr old. I had a psychologist friend at church who literally called me every morning to give me an outline of things I needed to do that day. For instance: Do a load of laundry; take the baby outside for a walk; meet the schoolbus; bake cookies for the kids; make the beds; etc etc etc.
THAT is how I functioned for 6 months. Your friend is a gift.
You are going to be fine – you are going to heal from this – you will live and breathe again – I promise you, you will.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Thank you for sharing. I know I will be fine in time. This is just the worst heartbreak I’ve ever experienced. xoxo
Susan, what a wonderful friend you had. And I want to say again thank you for your willingness to be transparent on your blog series! You are helping others. Each of you is sharing from a total different perspective, and both are helpful.
Thank you, Sara!
I appreciate your vulnerability to share your hurt and pain. I know that God will bring you through!
Thank you for always being so encouraging, Barbie.
Lovely. I too have gone through struggles such as these and know it’s not easy to share from such a place. I’ve written on my blog about times that I sat on my bathroom floor, unable to get up or move. It took everything in me to even get up off that floor. (Looking at how God-awful dirty it was — that was a bit of a help. Ewww.) Those are dark, dark times. Your writing is powerful and so worth sharing.
Thank you so much. It is had to write. Sometimes I just bawl while I’m typing. But, God urged the series along, so there is someone who needs it or will need it.
Maybe one day, we will have a virtual coffee date. We’ll both get out of the house and have community together, even though we are so far apart.
Hugs,
Melinda
That sounds fun. We could do it on Google Hangouts or something! Ah the beauty of the internet! LOL