I’m writing out of a very personal place this morning. I really should have called this post Setbacks Happen Part 2. Yesterday I had the mother of all setbacks. My ex informed me that he’s dating someone, and then after an argument, that he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. What do you do when something happens that burns your carefully rebuilt world down? I’ll tell you what I did. I cried… all night long. I spent the better part of the night messaging my best friend about all the thoughts that were running through my head. Each and every one of them. Then I watched tv until I fell asleep. It wasn’t a good sleep. I woke up in an awful mood and didn’t make the bed because I fully intended on sleeping all day after I dropped my boys off at school.
But then my friend messaged me this morning and asked me if I wanted to come over and go run errands. It’s like with that single text a lightbulb flicked on. I came home and made the bed, took a shower and went to the Father in prayer and praise. See, it’s in that moment that I thanked God that I have the ability to love someone so completely that it burns me to the ground when it’s over. A lot of people can’t put everything they have into love. I have no doubt that I do, because every single fiber of my being hurt last night as I cried the night away. (There is something to be thankful for in every situation if you just seek it out.)
Healing requires movement. Yes, God is the only one who can heal a broken heart. But if you’re just going to lay in bed all day, He’s going to stand back and wait until you’re ready to move. God doesn’t need our help to get things done, but He won’t do anything for us that we can do for ourselves. So, today I got up and I’m walking along side Him on the road to healing. Today I got a little bit stronger.
Setbacks happen, but they don’t have to bring your healing to a grinding halt. Take the time you need to deal with the setback (I did cry all night) and then get back up, dust yourself off, and continue on. Strength comes in the moments where you could sleep all day, but instead you choose to get up and walk alongside the Father.
Only God can heal a broken heart, but there are things we can do to help foster self healing. This post is part of my series 31 Days of Self Healing. You can find the rest of the posts for this series here.