There are so many things that are left over after a relationship has ended. The things that made up your life together. These things can serve as fond memories or as distractions that keep you from moving on. They can deepen your pain and keep you bound to someone who was never meant to be yours.
They are everywhere. On your phone, your computer, strewn throughout your house. You can never really wipe the existence of someone out of your life completely. From where I sit right now I can see two books he gave me, and a print out of a verse he asked me to memorize that has become one of my favorites. And the slippers he gave me for Christmas last year are on my feet.
The thing is, you don’t really have to get rid of absolutely everything. You know those things that will tempt you. The things that you catch yourself staring at only causing yourself more pain. For me, it’s the pictures and the text messages and the voice messages on my phone. I am fairly auditory, so all I’ve wanted is to hear his voice. I’ve put all the letters and the photos that were around the house in a box. Those don’t bother me anymore. But the things that were on my phone, well they kind of haunted me. So, one day I sat down and I deleted them. All the photos, the text messages, the walkie talkie app that I only used with him. It’s tricky though. Those things will hide from you. I found photos from the night we got our puppy in a random folder on my phone this week. Truth is I don’t need the pictures to remember the moments. They are all stored securely inside my head and heart. But I was using them to torture myself, so they had to go.
What are you holding onto that is keeping you in pain? Are you able to put it away and have it out of sight, out of mind, or are more drastic measures required?
Maybe you’re hoping your guy will come back and are hesitant to let go of the memories? Let me reassure you, God will make new memories for the two of you if you’re meant to be. The old ones are just serving to keep you bound in pain. God wants to see you set free. Let the past go. You don’t live there anymore. Sometimes you have to let go of the old to make room for the new. I promise you, God has something new in store for you. Maybe it’s a new chapter in an old relationship, but maybe it’s a whole new relationship that will surpass anything you could have even thought to dream for. Make room for it in your life and in your heart.
Only God can heal a broken heart, but there are things we can do to help foster self healing. This post is part of my series 31 Days of Self Healing. You can find the rest of the posts for this series here.