Some days feeling like you’re drowning is all consuming, and you just need to feel better right now, if only for a little while. Sometimes healing is about feeling better right now! And worrying about tomorrow later. This might sound cliché, but sometimes the simplest way to make yourself feel better is to simply take care of yourself. Do something that makes you feel pretty. Take the time to really concentrate on yourself. Do what makes you feel better right now. It’s ok to stop thinking about him for a little while and think about just you.
What is it that makes you feel a little better instantly?
A bubble bath, a shower, shaving your legs, dying your hair, painting your nails, going to a salon, buying a new outfit, getting a mani/pedi, putting on makeup and going out in public, just putting on real clothes, going home putting on comfy pajamas and lighting some candles…. the list could go on and on.
I had a rough afternoon yesterday and I needed a little bit of something to shake me out of my mood. I headed straight to the bathroom and pulled out the box of hair dye I had been meaning to use for weeks. The grey was starting to get to me. I am pretty sure the amount of grey hair on my head has at least doubled since the breakup happened. So, I dyed my hair, took a shower and shaved my legs. I put on a face mask when I got out of the shower and painted my toenails in my favorite shade of polish. Those are all little things, but they made me feel better after a bad afternoon.
Sometimes it’s the little things that work. The little things may not make much of a difference in the long term, but sometimes it’s about doing what makes you feel better right now so that you can make it to later. Sometimes it’s about shaking that feeling that you are never to feel any better. Go ahead, do whatever it is you need to do to relax for a little bit, whatever it is that makes you feel pampered. Do it! Let it take you out of the midst of the pain if only for a short time.
Only God can heal a broken heart, but there are things we can do to help foster self healing. This post is part of my series 31 Days of Self Healing. You can find the rest of the posts for this series here.