Forgiving those who you feel have wronged you sets you free. I know that sounds wrong. But really, think about it. Worrying about you being upset isn’t keeping them up at night. Chances are their life isn’t effected at all. They may not even know you are holding onto unforgiveness. It’s you who is turning yourself inside out worrying about it. It can be a difficult task, this forgiving. Good thing God is always there to lend us the strength and the grace we need. He will not only help you to forgive, but to walk out that forgiveness as well.
Scripture is full of the command to forgive as we have been forgiven.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ God forgave you.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
If Jesus can ask forgiveness for the ones who are casting lots for his clothes even as he hangs on the cross (Luke 23:34) you can certainly forgive your ex. Forgive him for everything he said or didn’t say. Forgive him for walking away from you and for refusing to fight for the love you once shared. Forgive him for all the grievances you hold against him, real or perceived. I promise it will make you feel so much better when you do. It will make you feel lighter. More at peace.
Forgive him. Wish him well and set him free. Set yourself free in the process.
Only God can heal a broken heart, but there are things we can do to help foster self healing. This post is part of my series 31 Days of Self Healing. You can find the rest of the posts for this series here.