Fall in love with the road. That was the advice my best friend gave me tonight when I was talking to her about my life. Mainly my love life, or lack there of.
This is what my dear best friend had to say; “You know those pie charts where one tiny sliver is one color and the whole rest of the pie is another color? That whole rest of the pie is the whole rest of your life that doesn’t need to revolve around a man. Your priority should be you. Be the best you that you can be. Do all the things you want to do. You think that you’re on this road to him, and at the end you get to be together, but you’re wrong. There is no end. You’re always on this road. Even if you do end up together, you’re still on it. Sometimes it will suck worse than being single. So fall in love with the road. The journey.”
Leave it to my bestie to sum things up so that they make perfect sense to me. She speaks my language fluently. I hope with everything in me that you have someone who speaks your language, because there is nothing better than knowing that there is someone who understands you perfectly.
Life is a beautiful journey and you’re on the road from day one until your last day standing. There are ups and downs, peaks and valleys. There are plans to be made and dreams to be chased. Passions to be discovered, explored and shared. Do you know what yours are?
In my life there has been one dream that has remained constant. I have always dreamed of falling in love. Of marrying and raising a family with someone who would always be by my side. That picture has changed and evolved over the years. I already have children and have no desire to ever be pregnant again. I would of course welcome any kids that come with my future spouse, and honestly I hope he has kids. There is nothing better than tons of kids running between the family houses over here in my neck of the woods. Quiet nights on the couch. Cooking together, singing together and pushing each other to chase our dreams. Falling asleep wrapped in his arms. Those are the things my dreams are made of. It’s not my only dream, but it’s my biggest one.
But Sara was right. There is a whole road that doesn’t have anything to do with him. It took a long time to find passions outside of being married for me. My passion in life is to help people. I believe that you should leave people in better shape than you found them in. A simple smile or a hug can work wonders.
Writing sets me free. While my fingers float across the keyboard, my mind is at ease. Sometimes I don’t know exactly what I’m thinking or feeling until I read back the words from my screen. I dream of conquering my fear of writing anything longer than a blog post and standing on a stage in front of people, reading the words that flowed from my heart to fill volumes. It’s not about fame and fortune, although those would be nice. It’s about someone hearing those words, my words, and thinking, “I’m not the only one.” Just to be able to lighten someone’s load a little bit. That is my writing dream. To share my journey and help others.
In one way or another I’ve been in the health and fitness industry since I was a teenager. To be able to walk beside someone as they tackle their goals, to cheer them on when they are loosing faith in their strength, To celebrate the small victories along the way are the things I live for on this journey. I love seeing the look on someone’s face when they do something they thought they couldn’t do! When they meet that goal, loose that weight, fit into those jeans that have been hanging on the back of their closet door….that is the stuff that drives me. Ambition is a beautiful thing, but passion is what drives ambition to movement.
This world can be chaotic, and sometimes you have to reach for things that ease your mind and soothe your soul. Do you know what you find therapeutic? For me it’s painting, getting lost in the pages of a good book, music, determined by my mood of course, dancing around like no one is watching, thunder storms, candle light, newly painted fingernails, and long conversations over coffee with my bestie. I urge you to take some time to look inward and identify these things for yourself. Those things you can reach for when the world doesn’t make sense. When you need an escape. It’s always good to have a fully stocked arsenal on standby for long days.
This has been a long, roundabout way to say there is a lot to life. Being in love is just a sliver of the pie. You have to fill in the rest of that pie. You have to, so that you know who you are. So that you don’t loose yourself in someone else.
Wait for love. Wait for the one who makes you want to be better. But be in action while you wait. Just like you deserve the best version of them, they deserve the best version of you.
What are your passions? What are your ambitions? It’s a great big life! Now go live it!